by Gururattan Kaur Khalsa, Ph.D.
The placement and sign of Venus in our natal chart determines
* how and where we search for love
* .what makes us feel at ease and at peace
* how we perceive beauty
* how we attempt to find and maintain balance and stability in our lives
* where we find solace and comfort
* what we attract and magnetize to ourselves
* How we manifest.
The birth chart indicates both the sign and
the house of the planet
Typically, although not always, the house that a planet is in
will not correspond to the planet that rules the sign. For example, one's
Venus could be Sagittarius and fall in the eighth house. This means that
when you are investigating your Venus you must understand the influences of
both Sagittarius and the eighth house (or Scorpio)
EXPRESSIONS OF VENUS
POSITIVE EXPRESSIONS NEGATIVE EXPRESSIONS
Sharing excessive possession
Detached love fantasies
Magnetism over sensitivity
THE DANCE OF BEINGNESS
Venus embodies a quality of consciousness, which is the pure expression of
the Universal Mind. When the mind is focused on God or the Divine, it
connects with and expresses Love and Wisdom. Through the higher, neutral or
intuitive mind, Venus links the lower and higher minds at the Ajna or Third
Eye. This center is the seat of wisdom. It is the lens through which the
Soul sees the world.
Human life, indeed the universe, is a dance between polarities. The
question is how do we dance the dance. Venus is the dancer. Venus weaves
and harmonizes opposites into complementary partners. In the process she
brings synthesis, unity and grace into our lives.
"Venus's great potency lies in her ability to bring about harmonious
relationships within pairs of opposites, thus furthering creative
manifestation on all levels." (*5) Venus's power lies in her ability to
give humanity a special quality of BEING. When Venus is conscious of her
Soul, she projects a magnetic and radiant light, which aligns with and
embodies universal love.
TANTRA - UNION WITH THE DIVINE
The fact that Venus teaches us how to transmute personal love into universal
love does not mean that we are obliged to replace personal, sexual
relationships with a celibate life. Venus is the Goddess of Tantra. Tantra
is also Pluto's territory and we will discuss his role next issue. Tantra
refers to the experience where a man and woman interact as the masculine and
feminine expressions of the Divine.
Libra's relationship to Tantra has to do with the higher mind. Libra rules
marriage and partnership. Yogi Bhajan reminds us of the spiritual sense of
the term and how many miss the true meaning of the institution of marriage,
which implies the merging of souls. He points out that marriage is not
simply sleeping together, marriage implies being of one mind.
The Divine is such a perfect intermingling of masculine and feminine, that
union of the two basic forces of the universe is a given. Through sexual
red Tantra, partners aspire to achieve an experience of this perfect
integration of masculine and feminine energies. In the physical act of
creation they experience the force of Divine Love.
Venus wants everyone to experience this perfect union. But as we pointed
out, a neutral mind is required. When two people have the capacity to hold
this experience in their own consciousness, they can use sexuality to
enhance and further induce this powerful, universal reality. This is why
traditionally the science of Tantra includes both the celibate, individual
spiritual path and the sexual, partnership path. One does not replace the
other. In both cases one must be able to hold the vibration of unity within
one's own consciousness awareness.
At its highest expression, love has a very different meaning than the
personal, personality-centered love we see in the movies and play out in our
romances. The higher love of Venus is impersonal and detached. It is
essence energy, disassociated from form. Venus connects us to the higher
expression of love. She frees us from the dramas of attached love, the
emotional tribulations of desires, and the astral pull of karma. The higher
love of Venus perceives the relationship between cause and effect and
chooses actions that create the desired effects.
Venus teaches us to "Let go and let God." Our most peaceful strategy is to
surrender to the infinite within and without. For most of us, surrender is
a path, not a one-time act.
In this higher state of consciousness, we are finally able to attract
dharmic instead of karmic relationships into our lives. This is the good
news many have been waiting for and perhaps the motivating factor to learn
our Venus lessons. For the impersonal, detached love offered by Venus does
not in any way diminish our experience of love. On the contrary, it
enhances it. Instead of giving up something, we gain what our souls most
desire - a personal connection with the Divine and someone to share it with.
As our mind is increasingly focussed on the energy of oneness, our magnetism
is increased exponentially. We attract to us our soul mate, our destiny
partner or life companion with whom we can share soul to soul and carry out
our life's work together.
Almost everyone wants some form of love relationship with another. Venus
teaches us that we can't attract or maintain what we want with excess
baggage. In fact, the most profound and hardest lesson Venus teaches us is
that WE ATTRACT WHAT WE PROJECT. We don't attract storybook perfectionism.
Baring a miracle, we are invariably draw to us our most challenging life
issues because that is what we came here to learn. (* 4)
Either we work out our issues before we partner up or we work them out in
our relationships, or more realistically, both. Venus wants us to be
comfortable with each other and ourselves. But this requires being
uncomfortable first and along the way. The good news is that dealing with
our neuroses, understanding our past, healing and self-reconciliation makes
us more peaceful, available and magnetic.
Venus teaches us that higher love is a balancing act. To achieve fulfilling
relationships we must consciously seek internal balance because our inner
reality creates our outer reality.
Love relationships are such a delicate and complex issue. There are so many
forms of relationships and all of them help us learn and grow. Venus teaches
us that we do not need permission or approval to want what we want and we
have to find our path in our own hearts. Venus also requires that we use
our heart and our intuition to discriminate.
Venus teaches us that there is a fine line between social morality, which is
used to control unconscious behavior, and the physical laws of karma. The
social morality is often an attempt to codify the personal behavior. If we
want to make our own choices, we have to become consciously aware of how we
create our own reality and make conscious decisions. If we want to be free
agents, we still have to live by universal laws. To do so we have to learn
to extricate guilt and shame trips and the need to please others to receive
love. Our ultimate guide is the peace we achieve within and the health and
vitality of our physical body. When we are at peace, we are aligned with
our own heart and the universe. Only then can we hope to attract the loving
relationships we desire.
SYNTHESIS AND INTUITION
Venus's quest is to "reconcile all duality and to create synthesis out of
polarization." (*1) Venus instinctively seeks to unite, blend, merge and
harmonize duality and conflict. This is done by transcending the level of
reality where conflict is the norm and by moving to a higher octave of
expression. This higher frequency is perceived in the heart and the neutral
mind and experienced by the soul.
The goal of our individual evolution is to achieve a fusion of our Soul with
our personality. This happens as our consciousness opens up to the reality
that exists beyond duality and we actually experience the universal energy
that binds, unites and holds all manifestations of creation together. (*2))
This cohesive and omnipresent force is universal love.
The experience of universal love is facilitated through the power of
intuition. The intuition is activated in the neutral mind. In the neutral
mind one attains "a focused awareness of the holistic quality of life." (*3)
Our intuition gives us clarity of perception because it perceives beyond the
realm of the positive and negative minds. Through intuition we experience a
sense of harmony that is not possible in the duality of analytic thought.
SELF-LOVE AND INNER DIRECTION
The most basic Venus question is "How can I love and nurture myself more and
more each day?" One of our most courageous, and from my observation
difficult, human acts is SELF-LOVE. One of our most intense challenges is
to bring our attention home to ourselves in a loving way. One of our most
honest lessons is to admit that no one else can give us what we already
SELF-LOVE is a never-ending process. We have to let the neediness,
the self-destructive beliefs and patterns play out. We have to celebrate
ourselves and our lives. We have to acknowledge our own value and bring it
to the surface of our consciousness so the universe can partner it.
Self-love is an internal personal process. We have to bring all parts of
ourselves to ourselves. When we are truly connected to who we are, the
feeling won't go away if someone we love leaves for a day or forever.
Abandonment is really letting parts of us leave when another leaves us, i.e.
we are abandoning ourselves. When we can hold on to our own energy, we can
attract to us available relationships. We are telling the universe and
Venus "I am available to a relationship that returns the flow of what I
Self-love obliges us to have the courage to live our lives, as we are inner
directed each day. It means not making others wrong to make ourselves
right. It means striving to incorporate unconditional love as a daily
practice. The basis of unconditional love is loving oneself
Self-love is not that complicated. But it does take consistent and vigilant
practice to achieve it. Self-love involves a graceful and accepting attitude
towards ourselves and includes the following:
* handling ourselves gently
* monitoring what we are gifting and receiving
* doing our best to balance the give and take
* living one moment at a time
* doing what honors our energy
* being grateful for our breath and our body
* choosing to lovingly and caringly monitor what is most appropriate and
gentle for our body and psyche.
* holding ourselves in gratitude for who we are and what we share and
We attract at the level that we vibrate. When we interact with others and
ourselves with anger or frustration, we feel a sense of separation because
we energetically cut ourselves off. On the other hand, people are
magnetically attracted to those who accept themselves because they too find
acceptance in the auras of those who know and practice self-love. The
greatest power of attraction is unconditional love. And it all starts with
CENTERING IN OUR OWN SELVES
Venus invites us to constantly live in the question. How do I step outside
my own center? How do I create imbalance in my own being? What exactly is
making me feel uncomfortable? Conversely we are invited to ask -- How can
I step back into my center? How can I create balance in my own being? How
can I feel secure and comfortable with myself?
If we don't have what we want and need, then we have to examine our give
away plan. How are we filling in the gaps and energetic caverns for others?
Energetic caretaking results in an energetic imbalance. How can we switch
to holding the space for what we want and opening the pathway to realize our
own dreams? Others have dreams too. If our pathway is open, and our dreams
mesh, we can join each other.
TRUST AND BALANCE
To receive the gifts of Venus we must TRUST. We must also live in a state of
BALANCE. Hope and trust are not the same thing. Hope is relying on an
unknown, external power to take care of us in a way that we give away our
power. Trust is possible when we become part of the process. Trust
involves an experience of connection with Source. The real capacity to
trust requires us to be able to hold our own energy and align it with
unknown forces. In other words, the universe and Venus require our
participation if we are to have what we want and deserve (and is already
Hope and hopeless often go together because we abdicate our power and
responsibility to participate. We dump our energy into self-deluding
prayers, instead of standing in the miracle of what we are co-creating with
the universe at every moment. Trust and balance are achieved by being in
constant connection with our Soul. Or at least knowing and accepting that
something within us besides our mental stories is taking care of us.
PRACTICE - To cultivate this state of Self-trust and balance, it is
beneficial to devise your own personal exercise where you affirm and
integrate the connection between your personality and your soul. One
affirmation I use is " My soul is taking care of me. My soul is attracting
to me what I need to learn so I can have what I want and do what I came here
to do. My soul is also helping me release persons and situations that do
not contribute to my serenity and fulfillment." Then I look at my current
situation and see the truth in this statement. I stay with it until I feel
this reality at a very deep level and achieve peace with my current
Venus wants us to be happy and at peace. Yet Venus puts us through our
tests to achieve these gifts. We must align our consciousness with
unconditional love to fully receive her gifts. To do this we must be honest
with ourselves. That seems simple enough. But in fact, most of us lie to
ourselves most of the time. We think we are telling the truth. But our
minds are filled with judgments, wishful thinking and illusions. And we are
a slave to our blame, victim mentality.
It is not that we are not sincere. The problem is that we are NOT
LISTENING. What about that silent voice that tells us - that isn't really
want I want. Or the feeling in the pit of our solar plexus that warns us
that a certain choice is not really going to work out the way we would like
it to. How many ways has our mind developed to convince us that we want and
can have what isn't really going to work for us? Why do we conveniently
overlook (deny) obvious facts? We are all masters of deception. Let's at
least be honest about this!
The problem is that if we lie to ourselves, we lie to others and we lie to
the universe. When we lie to the universe, we lie to Venus. She cannot
give us what we want if we do not know ourselves what our soul wants this
life time. We must send out clear, honest messages.
Where do we start? Honesty starts with LISTENING to our intuition and to
the subtle feelings in our bodies that are messages from our soul. Any form
of discomfort is a message. Mild stress may simply be a warning to relax
and trust. More potent messages like excess fatigue or throwing your back
out may be telling us that our current situation is not working for us and
advising us to change it. Once we PAY ATTENTION, it is very easy to tell
what gives us peace, what makes us happy and what decisions and actions give
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In both astrology and psychology we often refer to "the dark side" of a
planet or to our being. My interpretation of "the dark side" is that it has
not been viewed, looked at or illumined yet. I do not look at it as bad. I
look at it as unexposed and unexamined. The dark side is primal energy that
has not yet been developed. Hidden in all the crevices of our unconscious
mind are gifts, talents and the light of our soul. We are here to bring
light to all aspects of our being.
The dark side gets its bad reputation from the fact that it creates issues
and problems in our lives to get our attention so that we will bring light
to that facet of our soul. The process of becoming consciously conscious is
generally tedious, trying and challenging to say the least. But the
development of awareness is what the human game on Planet Earth is all
about. So we might as well get to business, accept and even enjoy the
process as much as we can.
WHAT DOES VENUS ATTRACT?
We would all like to believe that the Venus in us attracts to us perfect
partnerships, abundance, prosperity and a beautiful life. We would like
Venus to bless us with Divine Love. Venus's goal is to attract all these
things. Venus wants everyone to be happy and at peace. Enter the basic
laws of the universe - Like attracts like. Venus attracts to us what is in
our own psyche. If we are in duality, we attract conflict. If we are
needy, we attract abandonment. If we are angry, we attract confrontation.
Ooops. Not what we had in mind! Fortunately, however, there is a built in
mechanism within us where we simultaneously attract experiences that cause
us to grow spiritually and materially so that we can attract peace and love
into our lives. Through Venus's lessons we gain clarity about what really
gives us a sense of satisfaction, a feeling of peace and an experience of
harmony. In the process we cultivate the consciousness that allows us to
attract the harmony and the joy that we came here to experience.
Venus lessons involve love, partnership, money, sharing and giving.
Ultimately Venus teaches us how to infuse Divine love into the human
experience. Venus teaches us how to spiritualize matter. Venus teaches us
how to express Divine love in our daily lives. Venus infuses higher love
into our material and sensual world. Venus teaches us how to transmute
personal love into universal love.
ATTRACTION AND MAGNETISM
Venus is the force within each of us that gives us the ability to attract
other people, partners, circumstances, material possessions and abundance
into our lives. Venus gives us the power of personal magnetism. Venus
determines our taste in friends, our romantic instincts, and our sense of
courtesy and diplomacy.
Venus's primal desire is for union with the Divine. The urge to merge is
her existential motivation.
Venus expresses herself through feelings and sensations. Venus is our
primal instinct that gives us the ability to connect with what gives us
pleasure in the physical form.
OUR QUEST FOR LOVE
It is said that every act, thought and communication is either an attempt to
receive or to give love. In our moments of emotional honesty, most of us
would admit this is true.
The essence of our Soul is love. When our Soul is not in the physical body,
it experiences pure love. This is substantiated by those coming back from
near death experiences and when one tunes into souls that have left the
physical plane. Their message is invariably about the blissful state of
love and non-separation from the Divine.
The challenge of human existence is to experience Love while in a human
body. Our soul comes to Planet Earth to experience love in physical reality.
I still remember very vividly watching a video of a class with Yogi Bhajan.
He asked us to rise above the Earth and experience what it was like to view
the Earth from an out-of-body vantage point. I got in touch with being a
Soul floating above the Earth and being offered the opportunity to come to
Planet Earth to experience love as a human being. I was so excited about
the prospect. Then I experienced a lifetime where I was tortured when I
tried to open my heart to another human being. I felt the anguish of my
soul. I felt so deceived.
Then I left my body again and I felt myself as a Soul floating in the purity
of Divine Love. I was offered another opportunity to come to Planet Earth
to experience love in the human body. Again I was in the human body, filled
with insufferable pain from the inability to connect with the love that I
craved but could not connect with.
In a matter of a few minutes I relived
this scenario of passionate promise, accompanied by naïve and sincere hope
and then unbearable painful sadness. I was simultaneously disappointed,
angry, and devastated. I sat there sobbing uncontrollably until I had no
more tears to shed. I passed out, totally worn out from the experience that
was almost to real to bear.
Who can help us connect with the love we all came here to experience? Venus
is our mentor and teacher. It is her assignment is to assist us in our
quest to re-unite with Divine Love.
WHO IS VENUS?
Venus is the Goddess of Higher Love. Venus rules the law of attraction and
magnetism. Her territory includes the following:
THE BEAUTY OF LIFE
Venus softens the edges, absorbs the blows and rounds the corners so life
has a flow, a rhythm and a beauty to it. Venus accentuates the aescetic,
the refined and the delicate aspects of life. It is the Venus in us who writes
poetry, watches the sunset and hugs our lover. Venus is the artist, the
romantic, and the enjoyer of life.
HARMONY AND PEACE
Venus is our emotional and mental circuitry that facilitates the release of
tension and stress. Venus helps us maintain harmony and peace, both within
and without. Venus is our aesthetic indicator. Our Venus determines what
colors, music, food and forms we like. Our heart is soothed when we are
surrounded by things and in environments that we perceive as beautiful.
Venus's principal goal is to help us sustain a sense of serenity as we face
the challenges of life.