I've definitely had two. I felt it and they felt it. Very strange since neither one believes in that type of thing. I've had lots of readings for my charts and theirs where the astrologer has said the same thing.

this guy that i'm into. my natal saturn is conjunct his natal sun. my natal venus is conjunct

his natal moon and his natal moon is conjunct my venus. i definitely am drawn to him and

i feel a connection on my part. but theres this underlining fear that he'll really hurt me.

> but at this time the person is working through karma in another relationship

you are being used, as i was

avoid triangles, in the end they will come back together and you will wind looking like the jerk that tried to break a relation

I wrote to a friend of mine about being able to be with your soulmate and the effect of not being able to be with them. I don't know if it will help any of you or not. I also included what was in that book "Only Love is Real" at the very end. It talks about Soulmates you can't be with in this lifetime or that you have to leave.

From my email to my friend:

I never think about whether it feels good which must seem strange. I
met J when I was 20 and I knew by the third meeting that I had known
him before. It was incredibly strong. I couldn't have left him then if
I'd wanted to. The sensation that I'd been with him before and should
be again was overwhelming. That's why I went home with him and never
left. I didn't feel any in love, infatuation or love feelings like
everyone else described or what I'd seen. It was more like peace,
contentment, comfort along with this incredible attraction. We had that
thing where we just knew how to move together. I remember everyone,
even his housemates, saying we should get married because we were
perfect together. My friends freaked out at first, but they came to
accept it and see it as well. We had a radical effect on each other.
It transformed us. I knew without any doubt that God or whatever you
want to call it sent him to me. I
also knew without any doubt I'd been with him before. What's odder is
that he knew it too and he was basically an atheist then. But he knew
that and he told me that. We also both felt like the universe conspired
to get us together and it was inevitable. We had been traveling in the
same circles and going to the same places for years. At some point we
were going to meet.

(My friends were shocked because I'd never shown any interest in serious dating and I had no desire to marry. In fact, I thought it was a silly social construction and really still do. The fact that I would live with anyone let alone marry him was more than they could understand.)

No matter what, he is my husband in my heart
and he always will be. He feels the same way. It doesn't matter what
the law or anyone else says because we know it. That's why dating for
me if I lost him would be useless. There is no getting to know someone for me. I KNEW him.
If I never felt like that again with someone else it wouldn't be
possible at all for me to be with them because it would always be so
much less than what I had. I didn't want what everyone else had before
that and my being with J so long reinforced that.

(Now comes the soulmate I could never be with in this lifetime.)

And if you think of the odds that I would meet G? That has to be incredibly small. As soon as he leaned
over me and I saw his hands, I knew. I had that weird sensation again.
The way we move together and just know each other. That attraction that
doesn't care about the consequences because we just have to be close
together even if we aren't sexually together. It's strange. It's
almost overwhelming for me and I know it is for him. It's like finding
your family after being lost for a long time. That is the sensation.
That's the best way to describe it. You just know you belong there.

(And then my feelings on being with them or not.)

As for being alone, I might be in the sense that you think of it but I
wouldn't be lonely. Whatever happens with either of them, I only want
what's best for them. They are part of me and I am part of them.
That's never going to change no matter if they are physically with me or
not. They really can't ever be gone from me. I don't think we ever
were apart before we met. We had that connection, we just didn't have a
name to describe it or a physical form to connect it with in this life.
Without them I have my writing and that's fine. I don't long for a
relationship, I just miss them when they aren't around. But as for
that, it will work out or it won't in this life. If it doesn't, we will
meet again. I know it.

(Then what I got from "Only Love is Real" about Soulmates you can't be with.)

Anyway, what the book said is that even if your soulmate is in this
life, you may not meet or it might not work out. If one soul is more
advanced than the other then sometimes they can't work it out because
the advanced soul can't stay for the lessons the other soul has to
learn. Those can sometimes even turn toxic in the current life.
Sometimes the souls will come back together again if the other soul
learns the lessons and reaches the same level and sometimes they won't
if the soul can't. But they are always together in the afterlife and
they will come together again in this world. Somehow they find each
other over and over until they are together forever. He also said we
have soul families and that we travel together from life to life. I am
sure that's true of me. My father, my aunt, my brother, and my
best friend I am sure have been with me a long time. We have a
purpose together even if it isn't romantic.


(So I would focus on this if I were you because to me this is the most important lesson of all:)

Sometimes the souls will come back together again if the other soul
learns the lessons and reaches the same level and sometimes they won't
if the soul can't. But they are always together in the afterlife and
they will come together again in this world. Somehow they find each
other over and over until they are together forever.


I think when you truly realize that they will always be with you in some way it won't be so torturous any longer.

Hope that helped.

Zanne